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Kevin Frazier's avatar

Another example of why framing might be an important lesson to learn as a kid to take into adulthood is to mitigate things like depression. Framing is a resource we can give ourselves to think bigger than our current abilities.

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Laura Wilde, PhD.'s avatar

Yes! And...That meaning and purpose drive us when it's inevitably hard and we're feeling low.

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Laura Wilde, PhD.'s avatar

That's a really important idea, Kevin. One of the things I've found really helpful is a "reference point." A reference point is just a time in our past when we succeeded at something. If we can think back and see our skills leading to something good, some positive outcome, we're more likely to tell ourselves...If I did that, I can do this. If we can help each other remember those reference points, then life doesn't seem so unmanageable.

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Kevin Frazier's avatar

Exactly! And I actually read recently that through play and physical repetition you learn exponentially quicker than just studying. Failing in "play" is a great way to build those reference points while having fun.

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Laura Wilde, PhD.'s avatar

Way more positive brain chemistry which makes learning so much easier.

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Laura Wilde, PhD.'s avatar

Makes complete sense as flow is experienced as play and play is a common way into flow…no speed bumps, fast and fluid.

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Lisa's avatar

Love this!

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Isaiah's avatar

What I love about this is that most of us know this as adults but we forget to introduce this into our parenting. Thanks for the reminder! I wish someone would remind me in the moment though ☺️

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Laura Wilde's avatar

For sure! What often works for me is to focus on one thing at a time so it’s more likely to be front of mind. Also, I have a list in my head of two or things to try when the kids are frustrated, pushing back or melting down, etc. It’s often so hard in the moment!

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Amy Armstrong's avatar

awesome!

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